Forgiveness is powerful. But sometimes in love and relationships, we forgive the wrong people. Sometimes we’re tied closely to people who hurt us, and we think that we must forgive them to move forward, to save a relationship, to fix what has been torn apart, to give ourselves closure.
From my experience, forgiveness has changed my life. Accepting apologies from people who have destroyed me, forgiving people even when they haven’t asked for it, letting go. This has healed my heart in ways I could’ve never imagined. But this wasn’t easy. And not all stories are the same. Sometimes forgiving people is hard. Sometimes it hurts too much.
But i still think there’s power in forgiving because it helps to free yourself from what’s been trapping you and holding you down. It’s a reminderof God’s love when you treat others with kindness, even when they don’t deserve it. And it helps you just as much, if not more, when you free your heart from that bitterness and pain.
#forgiveness #forgiveandforget #myth #missnaiduwrites
You think only girls/ women need equality?
1. The day you raise your hand on a woman, will be the day you’ll no longer be called a man, said everyone. The day you raise your hand on a man, you’ll no longer be called a woman, said none. Why?
2. They guy you see, sitting alone, was once rejected because a guy always has to approach a girl, make her feel special, make her believe he’s different from others. Why? Is he a product on sale? If feelings are mutual, then why can’t a girl propose?
3. Girls praising is taken as a compliment but when the same is said by a boy, either he’s ignored or end up coming with the line “yaar! Every guy is of same type!! They dont mean what they say!” Oh really! Well!
4. A girl cries and there’s a long queue of people ready to wipe her tears. But when a guy cries, people console them by saying “Guys never cry!” As like they don’t have a soul and cannot express their sorrows!
5. “Protect guys who respect girls, because only few are left” duh! Just say that you haven’t seen the world yet! If you meet jerks, you’ll eventually end up with such jerky conclusions!
Now, probably many girls out there will have hard feelings for me, so hard that they might even end up in unfollowing or unsubscribing me! Some might even comment “not all girls are same.” But the truth won’t fade away. If men are supposed to know that not all girls are the same, then why can’t girls know this fact that not all boys are the same!!
#iamagirl #equalityformen #sorrynotsorry #takeiteasy #neutralpost #missnaiduwrites
Yes! Today I am going to talk about something that most of the people reading this won’t expect me to talk about! PERIODS!
How many of you cringed at the word “periods?” If you did, then let me tell you something that you guys aren’t different from the two, I overheard today.
One guy said to the other “Bhai! Tera bandi aaj itna pagla kyun rahi thi?” (Why was your wife acting crazy today) To which the other guy replied “Bhai, mujhe nahi pata, periods chal rahe honge shayad!” (May be she’d have got her periods) For a fraction of second, I was stunned! Whoa! They made a joke of one of the most difficult things that all the women go through for the major chunk of their lives!!
Do you even care if she’s going through periods when you beg her to kiss you, to make out with you, to send you nudes? Do you? I think not. You’ll be acting like a jackass to her the whole day, if she’s pissed off at you, either she’s “hormonal” or “bhai, periods chal rahe honge uski!” Maybe she’s not even on her periods! May be she’s tired of you being a dumbo to her the whole time and not treating her the way she deserves!
Do you even stop to care and think about that? I think these are some way to personal things and if a girl trusts you on something like this, she’s just way too much in you and you should respect that! Guys! She’s not a piece of meat, who bleeds once a month and is made fun for something that’s not under her control! She’s one of the very few people who would actually go to the end of the world just to see a smile on your face and someone who actually cares about what you do with your life other than your parents! Your parents might give up on you in some cases, but she won’t! Unless of course, you hurt every single nerve in her body! It’s a natural process and it has nothing to do with purity and impurity!!
#notallmenaresame #happytobleed #missnaiduwrites
You are an idiot! Aren’t you?
They will come again and again, there are thousands of them! You’ll swear each time not to let them in, but you will, everytime. They’ll love you, need you, use you, hurt you and leave you! You’ll cry over them, each time! “That was a lesson! I’ll stay away” goes through your mind but your heart does “welcome” them each time!
You’re so silly aren’t you?
You’ll get close and attached each time! Love thoughtlessly and then play scandalous little games again and again, each time! Being naive, you’ll fall for the wrong person each time! But don’t worry, may be one day you’ll learn to wait, identify and love the one who deserves it!
But till then, hold your fickle heart tight and paste back the broken pieces together, each time. You’ll still have those 2-3 friends who’ve always had your back and proved their love and loyalty over time, way more times than it was necesaary! They’ll help you keep strong always!
But in the end, I know, you’re still gonna run away to the wrong person, you silly being!
#bittertruth #worldview #dumbplays #missnaiduwrites
It’s independence day and still confused which one to mention? About the chaos? Anthem? Border? War? Saviors?
Well! We just get this ‘Indian’ feel just occasionally when we get to encounter visuals related to them! What about the rest of the time? Couple of years back I was at Wagah border and until they started their routines, I was just having ‘we times’ with friends! Yeah! And after those rituals had completed, I was totally invoked with the feel of being an Indian! That patriotic feel, obviously an invoked feel!! Tho I ain’t anti-patriotic! But the thing is I respect military/ army officials more than I respect India., Seems like you could extract the difference!
And then, I had an encounter with this army official and his conversation about his life-style, life-death daily toggles, being apart from family and such chaotic survival, just made me realise that i am a piece of a useless jerk! And still I feel the same., My jerky question to him was ‘Why would he sacrifice so much himself to protect us and what does he get in return?’ And may be, I unveiled myself to be a jerk!! And his response was ‘This was never my passion! I was intended to do this and now after facing all those chaos, I didn’t want my family and the rest to deal with such chaos directly!’
But what do we do to them in return? How many of you know the names of the highest army officials? Atleast the name of their postings? We rarely do! Despite bidding a salute to what India is, I’d proudly bid a salute to those people who be the responsibility of our well being!!
#army #navy #airforce #isalutethem #indianindependenceday #missnaiduwrites
You held me today,
Hoisted me high in the sky,
Pinned me to your clothes,
Smeared my colors on your face.
I was torn and forgotten!
#indianindependenceday #proudindian #bittertruth #neutralpost #missnaiduwrites
I don’t think boys understand that girls stalking skills are soo strong that we can literally find out your entire autobiography in 12 minutes!!
#justgirlthings #girly #missnaiduwrites
It genuinely baffles me that men don’t want women in positions of power because “they’re slaves to their harmones/ emotions” and yet, one of those lines of defence when it comes to rape cases tends to be “it’s hardly his fault! look at what she was wearing! How could we expect him to control himself!”
The eff’ man!
#irespectmen #irespectwomen #neutralpost #missnaiduwrites
So… I made myself so strong to blog this one. This is a must watch post for both men and women out there. So it’s 01.45 a.m (IST) and I had just completed watching the movie “lens” (tamil). This post is not about movie review or so. May be I had a heart-throb, that ache a person has while completing a heart-waming novel or a movie.
This movie was based on a real incident of a 15-years old girl named “Amanda Todd” who was cyber bullied and was forced to commit suicide in Canada (exposed). Many of us would not have that much exposure about this incident. But coming up to know this one shook me up!
But the reason why I came up with this is… *blank* I well know that I can change nothing. But it’s been the most discussed thing among where I live, since cyber-bullying and rapes became gossips! Describe a girl? Long legs! Chubby enough! Booty goals! Busty nigga! I need not go deep!! Abuse a girl? Use her weakness, bully her! Until she quits her life.
Not all men are same. Real ones (asli-mard) do exist. But men will be men. And the one who starts blaming women! Got you! Hope so you would have heard it “The thing happened to short skirts vigorously happened to burkhas too!” And yes girls! I am not here to support you too! Men too get raped!!
People be like “Government should ban porn. Watching porn makes men rape!” So, “You love watching dexter. Don’t you? Does watching dexter make you murder people?” So hereby, It doesn’t matter if I’ve gone through such bullies or so, don’t I have such right to question you? I feel the way they do! We do exist!
#irespectmen #irespectwomen #missnaiduwrites
Yes, I had my choices. But I chose to leave. Isn’t it insane to go without any attachments, emotions, feelings? Everything is normal, and suddenly you’re gone, forever. There’s always this hope of you coming back or atleast stating the reasons why you left.
Maybe someday I’ll know why. Until then lets assume? But on the contrary, I think it’s quite unfair to meet people unexpectedly and expect them to give reasons why they left. Throughout the months, I’ve mastered the ability to forget. Forget incidents, forget memories, forget moments, and even people. I still end up thinking about these people during some sleepless nights though.
After all, you cannot completely erase them from your lives, but you can atleast try to avoid having pieces of them left inside your broken self.
You’ll not forget their favourite food, their way of conversation or their smile. But you can forget the promises they’ve made. You can forgive them for the hearts they’ve broken.
After all, what’s the point of holding on, when letting go is the only option?
#wordsfromheart #pointlesscravings #missnaiduwrites