Open talk

The reason why relationship fails nowadays is because people do not find time to talk personally anymore. When one is upset instead of talking about the problem, they would tend to vent out on social media. Affection becomes so virtual. Feelings are so temporary.

If you want to say something about your partner, talk about it. Do not let them figure out on what is wrong with you. Not all the time they can read your mind. Lower your pride sometimes too. It does not hurt to accept your mistakes. Learn from them. There is always time for cute pretty fights but most of the time you have to deal things maturely. Most importantly, Do not afraid to say sorry.

There will never be a perfect relationship thus shit happens sometimes. At the end of the day, there will never be a perfect person. It is a matter of who is worth all the risks. It is about accepting them whole heartedly without ifs and buts.

#relationship #mood #opentalk #missnaiduwrites

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Women’s day!

Yayy!! So women’s day wishes all over my mail and what must I be blogging about? Equality? Freedom? Feminism? No! The heart ache we go through because we bleed! Obviously!

Whenever it’s time of that month for either one of us, we are fortunate enough to be able to use sanitary napkins. That is a big deal by itself in our country. So, we go to the grocery store or pharmacy to buy the napkins. Regardless of the store we buy and regardless of the brand, they are wrapped in more layers than nuclear weapons. And rightly so, because one glimpse of the green packet and all the men will faint from the exposure to a thing so toxic. That totally happens.

Every time the shopkeeper insists on wrapping my packet of napkins in two layers of newspapers and hands it over in an opaque, black plastic bag, my blood boils in the blood vessels and I wanted to be screaming. If I use to shop alone, I refuse the unnecessary extra packaging. Yeah, I get shocked looks and taunts. But I do it anyway. When I am shopping with you, however, you’ll be giving me a glare and my protests die at the tip of my tongue.

Why are you so scared of people finding out that you bleed? I really don’t understand this paranoia. We are all women who are capable of bearing children. It should be obvious then that we get our periods every month, shouldn’t it? I mean, regular periods are a sign of a healthy woman. Is that what we’re ashamed of? Being healthy?

That one of those ‘happy to bleed’ woman wishing everyone a Happy Women’s day!!

#womensday #womenpower #healthywomen #missnaiduwrites

Just overdosing positivity

Is positivity really worth it? Does it really do anything? Positivity is not something that comes to you out of the blue. You have to work on it. It’s a mindset. It’s not strong and it’s not permanent, but it’s worthwhile. Wake up every morning and say, “It’s a great day to be alive”, and be grateful that you were able to open your eyes this morning. Put 100% love in every thing you do. Life’s not perfect, but be grateful for all the people you see each day.

Positivity is not happiness. Positivity is something that grows little by little, each day, trying something new each day, being greatful of having this life. You can grow and you will grow. Try to observe the light in everything you see. Rest, Close your eyes, Count, lie on your bed by noon air and listen to music and breathe, feel the world around you. Cry when you need to, read, write, paint, complement people. Give yourself time to just be!

#mood #numbness #positivity #dailydose #missnaiduwrites

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is powerful. But sometimes in love and relationships, we forgive the wrong people. Sometimes we’re tied closely to people who hurt us, and we think that we must forgive them to move forward, to save a relationship, to fix what has been torn apart, to give ourselves closure.

From my experience, forgiveness has changed my life. Accepting apologies from people who have destroyed me, forgiving people even when they haven’t asked for it, letting go. This has healed my heart in ways I could’ve never imagined. But this wasn’t easy. And not all stories are the same. Sometimes forgiving people is hard. Sometimes it hurts too much.

But i still think there’s power in forgiving because it helps to free yourself from what’s been trapping you and holding you down. It’s a reminderof God’s love when you treat others with kindness, even when they don’t deserve it. And it helps you just as much, if not more, when you free your heart from that bitterness and pain.

#forgiveness #forgiveandforget #myth #missnaiduwrites

Equality 

You think only girls/ women need equality?

1. The day you raise your hand on a woman, will be the day you’ll no longer be called a man, said everyone. The day you raise your hand on a man, you’ll no longer be called a woman, said none. Why?

2. They guy you see, sitting alone, was once rejected because a guy always has to approach a girl, make her feel special, make her believe he’s different from others. Why? Is he a product on sale? If feelings are mutual, then why can’t a girl propose?

3. Girls praising is taken as a compliment but when the same is said by a boy, either he’s ignored or end up coming with the line “yaar! Every guy is of same type!! They dont mean what they say!” Oh really! Well!

4. A girl cries and there’s a long queue of people ready to wipe her tears. But when a guy cries, people console them by saying “Guys never cry!” As like they don’t have a soul and cannot express their sorrows!

5. “Protect guys who respect girls, because only few are left” duh! Just say that you haven’t seen the world yet! If you meet jerks, you’ll eventually end up with such jerky conclusions!

Now, probably many girls out there will have hard feelings for me, so hard that they might even end up in unfollowing or unsubscribing me! Some might even comment “not all girls are same.” But the truth won’t fade away. If men are supposed to know that not all girls are the same, then why can’t girls know this fact that not all boys are the same!!

#iamagirl #equalityformen #sorrynotsorry #takeiteasy #neutralpost #missnaiduwrites 

Face the cringe!!

Yes! Today I am going to talk about something that most of the people reading this won’t expect me to talk about! PERIODS!

How many of you cringed at the word “periods?” If you did, then let me tell you something that you guys aren’t different from the two, I overheard today.

One guy said to the other “Bhai! Tera bandi aaj itna pagla kyun rahi thi?” (Why was your wife acting crazy today) To which the other guy replied “Bhai, mujhe nahi pata, periods chal rahe honge shayad!” (May be she’d have got her periods) For a fraction of second, I was stunned! Whoa! They made a joke of one of the most difficult things that all the women go through for the major chunk of their lives!! 

Do you even care if she’s going through periods when you beg her to kiss you, to make out with you, to send you nudes? Do you? I think not. You’ll be acting like a jackass to her the whole day, if she’s pissed off at you, either she’s “hormonal” or “bhai, periods chal rahe honge uski!” Maybe she’s not even on her periods! May be she’s tired of you being a dumbo to her the whole time and not treating her the way she deserves!

Do you even stop to care and think about that? I think these are some way to personal things and if a girl trusts you on something like this, she’s just way too much in you and you should respect that! Guys! She’s not a piece of meat, who bleeds once a month and is made fun for something that’s not under her control! She’s one of the very few people who would actually go to the end of the world just to see a smile on your face and someone who actually cares about what you do with your life other than your parents! Your parents might give up on you in some cases, but she won’t! Unless of course, you hurt every single nerve in her body! It’s a natural process and it has nothing to do with purity and impurity!!

#notallmenaresame #happytobleed #missnaiduwrites 

Each time!

You are an idiot! Aren’t you?

They will come again and again, there are thousands of them! You’ll swear each time not to let them in, but you will, everytime. They’ll love you, need you, use you, hurt you and leave you! You’ll cry over them, each time! “That was a lesson! I’ll stay away” goes through your mind but your heart does “welcome” them each time!

You’re so silly aren’t you? 

You’ll get close and attached each time! Love thoughtlessly and then play scandalous little games again and again, each time! Being naive, you’ll fall for the wrong person each time! But don’t worry, may be one day you’ll learn to wait, identify and love the one who deserves it!

But till then, hold your fickle heart tight and paste back the broken pieces together, each time. You’ll still have those 2-3 friends who’ve always had your back and proved their love and loyalty over time, way more times than it was necesaary! They’ll help you keep strong always!

But in the end, I know, you’re still gonna run away to the wrong person, you silly being!

#bittertruth #worldview #dumbplays #missnaiduwrites

The saviour 

It’s independence day and still confused which one to mention? About the chaos? Anthem? Border? War? Saviors?

Well! We just get this ‘Indian’ feel just occasionally when we get to encounter visuals related to them! What about the rest of the time? Couple of years back I was at Wagah border and until they started their routines, I was just having ‘we times’ with friends! Yeah! And after those rituals had completed, I was totally invoked with the feel of being an Indian! That patriotic feel, obviously an invoked feel!! Tho I ain’t anti-patriotic! But the thing is I respect military/ army officials more than I respect India., Seems like you could extract the difference!

And then, I had an encounter with this army official and his conversation about his life-style, life-death daily toggles, being apart from family and such chaotic survival, just made me realise that i am a piece of a useless jerk! And still I feel the same., My jerky question to him was ‘Why would he sacrifice so much himself to protect us and what does he get in return?’ And may be, I unveiled myself to be a jerk!! And his response was ‘This was never my passion! I was intended to do this and now after facing all those chaos, I didn’t want my family and the rest to deal with such chaos directly!’

But what do we do to them in return? How many of you know the names of the highest army officials? Atleast the name of their postings? We rarely do! Despite bidding a salute to what India is, I’d proudly bid a salute to those people who be the responsibility of our well being!!

#army #navy #airforce #isalutethem #indianindependenceday #missnaiduwrites